Let’s say you just attended a wedding and you met a nice girl who’s exactly like you… shy, demure and socially programmed to act proper ALL the time. You exchanged phone numbers, agree to meet again sometime, and soon you’re SMS-ing romantic quotes. Then, one night, while you’re talking on the phone with her, a little devil appears beside you and whispers “Have phone sex with her…” over and over.

Now, you KNOW you can’t just drop F-bombs out of the blue and call her your foxy bitch, considering the nature of your personality and hers. It’s no secret that most shy men still feel a twinge of guilt whenever they say ‘disrespectful’ words, and if you’re one of these men, using the F-word or the B-word while in conversation with a girl you like might sound awkward and unnatural. The following tips will reveal how you can have an erotic conversation with a girl without saying these words.

The Appeal of Phone Sex

Here’s a fact: women feel the pressure of having to act like a lady all the time. She’s always wary of showing her sexual side to a guy whose impression of her might change if she acted “out of character”. However, if you can steer the direction of your conversation towards sex without triggering the ‘I’m-not-a-slut’ alarm inside her brain, you can make her open up to you sexually. Phone sex gives a girl an outlet for the erotic fantasies brewing inside her brain, without actually going all the way.

Read on to find out how you can escalate from having a regular phone conversation to making your girl feel hot enough to have phone sex with you.

Tip#1: Play the “What If” Game

Reminisce about your first meeting and play a silly game of “what if…” For instance, in the above example, you can talk about the wedding reception you both attended and think up outrageous scenarios like “Darn it! I knew you were giving me the eye when you saw the groom hand me the honeymoon suite’s key… What if I grabbed you that time, and pulled you inside the suite for a quick make out?…” By playing this game, you plant the seeds of erotic conversation in her mind. She will think of the scenario, imagine the situation, think of a response and feel hot.

Tip#2: Men are Visual, Women are Sensual

Most men need only to know what a woman is wearing to feel hot, but a girl needs more than that. Read a few erotic romance novels and you will notice the kind of sexy talk that women like. It’s all about texture… hot on cold, hard on soft, wet on wet… you get the idea.

To a girl, sex or the thought of sex is nothing without the sexual tension that leads to it. Sexual tension builds when you talk in a sensual way. Here’s an example using the scenario above: “The bed covers on that matrimonial bed were made of pure satin. I wonder how cold satin feels on warm skin? Can you imagine?”

Tip#3: Pull Back and Let Her Do the Talking

You know she’s getting hotter when she starts responding to your teasing. Her mind is going into overdrive and she can imagine the scene in detail. She might even have started touching herself (and so have you). When you’re at this point of the conversation, it’s time to pull back a little and test the waters. Tell her the truth: you’re getting hot, and if you don’t stop now, you won’t be able to control yourself.

There’s something extremely seductive about making a nice guy (who’s trying his best to keep it together) lose control. Even the most demure girl will find it hard to resist this impulse to seduce, to be the temptress.

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